Pastor Steve Williams : Making Friends for Life and Longer

Better Together 2018 · 38:21 · Recorded August 12, 2018

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NCV) Two people are better than one, because they get more done by working together. If one falls down, the other can help him up. But it is bad for the person who is alone and falls, because no one is there to help.

1. Value the place friends can hold in your life.

Luke 22:28 (NJB) “You are the men who have stood by me faithfully in my trials.”

2. Assume the primary responsibility for your connections to others.

John 15:15-16 (CSB) “I do not call you servants…I have called you friends…You did not choose me, but I chose you…”

3. Seek the kinds of friends worth having.

Proverbs 12:26 (NET) The righteous person is cautious in his friendship.

Proverbs 18:24 (NIV) A man of many companions may come to ruin.

They’ve got a good track record.

1 Corinthians 15:33 (CSB) Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”

They aren’t strangers to pain.

They can accept others’ imperfections.

Romans 3:22-23 (NIV) There is no difference, for all have sinned…

James 3:2 (CSB) For we all stumble in many ways.

They’re able to be open about their own deficits.

Romans 15:7 (GW) Therefore accept each other in the same way that Christ accepted you.

They’re about truth & grace equally.

Proverbs 27:5-6 (CEV) A truly good friend will openly correct you. You can trust a friend who corrects you, but kisses from an enemy are nothing but lies.

Proverbs 17:9 (CEV) You will keep your friends if you forgive them, but you’ll lose your friends if you keep talking about what they did wrong.

They seem to bring out the best in you.

4. Keep doing what keeps friends close.

Matthew 7:12 (MSG) “Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them.”

Stay in touch with them!

3 John 14-15 (TEV) “I hope to see you soon…All your friends send greetings. Greet all our friends personally.”

Proverbs 27:9-10 (ESV) The sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel. Do not forsake your friend and your father’s friend, and do not go to your brother’s house in the day of your calamity. Better is a neighbor who is near than a brother who is far away.

Build two-way support with them.

Proverbs 17:17; 18:24 (TLB) A true friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need…There are "friends" who pretend to be friends, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

5. Reverence how God is using your friendships.

  • Who were a couple of your best friends in High School, and what put them in that category? Who would you consider one of your best friends to be today, and what gives them that distinction?

  • What would you say are the three top barriers to having meaningful friendships that hinder people from enjoying them?

  • Which of these practical points in this message about building friend-ships have you seen to be most important for you? Which do you need to work on more?

  • React to this statement: “Not everybody can be your friend, nor should they be.” What issues should be considered in choosing your friends?

  • Many people speak of their husband or wife as their best friend. How is this the same, and how is it different from how you conduct your friendships?

  • What are some relational lessons you’ve learned from losing good friendships? How are you doing things differently today?

  • Elementary parents, today we continued our series on service–seeing and doing something about it. Our bottom line today is Don’t worry about who gets credit – just serve. Ask kids who served others in our Bible story. (Jesus) Ask if he healed the young girl to show everyone how powerful he is or did he heal her to help because he cared. We should serve others because they need it and not so that others can seeing us doing something good.

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  • Cornerstone

  • Reckless Love

  • Called Me Higher

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