Pastor Steve Williams : Boundaries and Why They Matter

Boundaries 2019 · 42:15 · Recorded October 20, 2019

Boundaries & Why They Matter

Psalm 139:23-24 (NAS) “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way.”

Being clear about my zones of responsibility & freedom in living.

Lamentations 3:40 (GW) “Let us look closely at our ways and examine them and then return to the LORD.”

1. They’re obviously essential for living!

2. They’re soundly Biblical.

Deuteronomy 30:19-20 (NIV) “This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the LORD your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the LORD is your life.”

3. They wisely protect & preserve my well-being.

Proverbs 16:17 (CSB) The highway of the upright avoids evil; the one who guards his way protects his life.

Proverbs 22:3 (NLT) A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.

4. They’re actually liberating ways to live.

Psalm 119:32 (NIV) “I run in the path of your commands, for you have set my heart free.”

Isaiah 3:10 (BBE) Happy is the upright man! for he will have joy of the fruit of his ways.

5. They constantly balance tensions for me.

Ecclesiastes 7:18 (ICB) Try to avoid going too far in doing anything. Those who honor God will avoid doing too much of anything.

6. They’re carefully regulating what can flow in & out.

Luke 6:45 (CEB) A good person produces good from the good treasury of the inner self, while an evil person produces evil from the evil treasury of the inner self.

  • What would the effect be of no borders, property lines, or doors & gates on homes or businesses?

  • Of those mentioned in the message, what are the top two or three reasons you personally find boundaries are a good thing? What questions do you have about living with them?

  • What’s a big idea about boundaries that challenged or encouraged you from this message? What scriptures seemed to speak to you from this message or your own reading and studying?

  • What arguments could be mustered against the idea of establishing clear boundaries for one’s self? What are the differences between being selfish and being wise with responsible self-care involved in boundaries? Can you think of times Jesus demonstrated this?

  • Where have you found setting clear boundaries to be helpful in your relationships, home, marriage, work? Where are you feeling the need to pay more attention to this issue? How can your group pray for you or assist you with this?

  • Elementary parents, we began talking about LOVE in our class-rooms today. Love the way Jesus defined it is much different than what the world tries to pass off as love. Jesus loves extravagantly, unselfishly, and completely without regard to our “loveableness”! This is what he calls us to do as his followers. Truthfully, this is hard, risky, and costly. But it is worth every moment. Jesus commanded us to love others in John 13:34-35: “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” Talk as a family about how to love the way Jesus loves!

  • Great Things

  • Tremble

  • Hallelujah For The Cross

  • Who You Say I Am


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