Pastor Steve Williams : Slaying the Green-Eyed Monster

Fight Club · 41:01 · Recorded March 17, 2019

Slaying the Green-Eyed Monster

James 4:1 (NIV) What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?

1 Peter 2:11 (NIV) Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul.

1 Timothy 6:11-12 (NAS) Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, perseverance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of faith.

What’s behind our internal battles

The world, the flesh & the devil.

Ephesians 2:2-3 (NIV) …You followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient…gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and following its desires and thoughts…

Our struggle with jealousy & envy

We’re JEALOUS for what’s ours, roused that we may lose it.

Exodus 34:14 (NLT) “You must worship no other gods, for the LORD, whose very name is Jealous, is a God who is jealous about his relationship with you.”

We’re ENVIOUS of what’s another’s, resentful that we don’t have it.

Proverbs 14:30 (NIV) A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.

1. Guard against the dark-side of competition and comparison.

Ecclesiastes 4:4 (TLB)  Then I observed that the basic motive for success is the driving force of envy and jealousy! But this, too, is foolishness, chasing the wind.

James 3:14, 16 (NAS) If you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth…For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing.

2. Bend your ego to the way of humility.

1 Peter 5:5-6 (NIV) Clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.

Philippians 2:3-4 (NJB) Out of humility of mind everyone should give preference to others, everyone pursuing not selfish interests but those of others.

Avoid making things win/lose whenever possible!

3. Strengthen your heart for greater empathy.

Romans 12:15 (TLB) When others are happy, be happy with them. If they are sad, share their sorrow.

See others as partners in your improvement.

Galatians 6:4 (TLB) Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.

4. Enlarge your perspective through gratitude.

Psalm 16:5-6 (NIV) “LORD, you have assigned me my portion and my cup; you have made my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.”

5. Push through to the “second wind” of contentment.

Philippians 4:11-13 (NCV) “I have learned to be satisfied with the things I have and with everything that happens. I know how to live when I am poor, and I know how to live when I have plenty. I have learned the secret of being happy at any time in everything that happens…I can do all things through Christ, because he gives me strength.”

Study & Discussion Questions
  • When do you remember experiencing jealousy or envy as a child? How did it go for you? When have you fought this battle as an adult?

  • React to the distinction Pastor Steve made between jealousy and envy. How can this distinction be helpful to you with this inner battle?

  • When have you encountered the dark-side of competition & comparison in your experience? Which seems to have the stronger pull on you? How will you try to approach them differently in light of this message?

  • Which of the action points from this message would you like to understand better? Is there one you’d really like to ignore altogether? Which is really helpful and encouraging to you? Is there a technique or action step you could suggest that’s been helpful to you in your struggles with jealousy/envy?

  • Read Mark 9:33-35 and 10:35-45 to see how often/quickly this issue arose among Jesus’ disciples! What connections do you see between these incidents with Jesus’ disciples and the action points from this message?

  • What scripture or truth from this message will be your biggest “take away” as you live out your faith this week? How can you use your group’s prayer in this?

  • Elementary parents, your kids are learning God’s plan for how to use our money wisely for the entire month of March. Ask kids what the three-part plan is. (Give, Save, Spend) This week we focused on the need to Save to be Ready. Ask who helped save a nation by saving up food. (Joseph) Talk together about ways you save to prepare and encourage kids to do the same.

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  • New Wine

  • Thank You Jesus

  • Christ Is Enough

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