Pastor Ronnie McDougall and Pastor Shane Ham : Tempering Your Temper

Fight Club · 53:06 · Recorded March 24, 2019

Tempering Your Temper

Proverbs 25:28 (NASB) Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit.

Ephesians 4:26 (ESV) Be angry and do not sin.

Four ways people deal with anger

1. The maniac.

Genesis 4:5, 8 (TEV) Cain became furious, and he scowled in anger… When they were out in the fields, Cain turned on his brother and killed him.

2. The mute.

Jeremiah 15:17-18 (GNB) I stayed by myself and was filled with anger. Why do I keep on suffering? Why are my wounds incurable? Why won’t they heal?

3. The martyr.

Luke 15:28 (GW) “Then the older son became angry and wouldn’t go into the house. His father came out and begged him to come in.”

4. The manipulator.

Luke 6:11 (MSG) They were beside themselves with anger, and started plotting how they might get even with him.

Handling it God’s way

1. Learn to understand your anger.

Proverbs 19:11 (BBE) A man’s good sense makes him slow to wrath, and the overlooking of wrongdoing is his glory.

Why am I feeling this?

Matthew 5:21-22 (NIV) “You have heard that it was said… ‘Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.”

Genesis 4:5-7 (TEV) Cain became furious, and he scowled in anger. Then the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why that scowl on your face? …Sin is crouching at your door. It wants to rule you, but you must overcome it.”

Is it really worth its weight?

James 1:20 (NIV) For man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

Is it helping me or hindering me?

Ephesians 4:26-27 (NLT2) And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.

Hebrews 12:14-15 (TLB) Try to stay out of all quarrels, and seek to live a clean and holy life…watch out that no bitterness takes root among you, for as it springs up it causes deep trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives.

2. Play it down and pray it up.

Proverbs 14:30 (TLB) A relaxed attitude lengthens a man’s life.

Proverbs 14:17 (GW) A short-tempered person acts stupidly.

Proverbs 29:11 (NIV) A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

Mark 7:15 (ESV) “There is nothing outside a person that by going into him can defile him, but the things that come out of a person are what defile him.”

3. Don’t make excuses for it!

4. Talk to somebody about it.

Galatians 6:2 (NLT2) Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.

5. Always operate from a place of forgiveness!

Matthew 6:12 (NLT2) “…and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.”

  • How did your family deal with anger as you were growing up?

  • Which of the “four ways people deal with anger” do you tend to identify with the most? What would your family say you tend to do the most?

  • What anger are you dealing with now? Think about what emotions lie behind the anger. What do you feel? Is there a fear that lies behind it? Is it stemming from a hurt that hasn’t been healed? Pray into whatever is revealed as the root. Talk with your small group about what is behind your anger and how you can respond to it in a godly way.

  • Has God’s influence over your life positively affected your anger? Why or why not? Read Titus 3:5-6 and summarize these verses in your own words. How do you think this scripture relates to the topic of anger?

  • Identify at least one person in your life (friend, spouse, small group member, etc.) who you will ask to join you as you work through any unhelpful or unhealthy ways you deal with anger. Choose a person who will encourage you in the Word, will pray for you as you try to make changes, and will be truthful with you in all circumstances.

  • Elementary parents – Throughout March we have been teaching your kids about God’s plan for how to best honor Him with our money and our stuff. Today we learned that we should spend wisely. Ask kids about our Bible story and who did some really unwise things when it comes to spending. (King Ahab and Jezebel) Money is not a bad thing but anyone who has money has to make good choices. That’s what spending wisely really is— it’s making good decisions about how to spend.

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