Pastor Kevin Manning : Forgiveness: Because You’re Forgiven

How to Be · 43:24 · Recorded October 2, 2022

Forgiveness: Because You’re Forgiven

Ephesians 4:17-32 (NLT) With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused. Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him. They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity. But that isn’t what you learned about Christ. Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy. So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

Acknowledge your own behavior.

Apology vs Confession (asking for forgiveness)

Choose to be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving.

Because Christ has forgiven you.

How do you handle hurts?

1. Surrender your right to get even.

Romans 12:19 (CEV) Don’t try to get even. Let God take revenge.

2. Respond to evil with good.

Luke 6:27-28 (NIV) Do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

3. Repeat these steps as long as it takes.

Matthew 18:21-22 (NLT) Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!”

4. Reconcile others with the Good News of God’s forgiveness.

2 Corinthians 5:18-21 (NLT) 18And all of this is a gift from God, who brought us back to himself through Christ. And God has given us this task of reconciling people to him. 19For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation. 20So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!” 21For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ.

Talk It Over
  • Reread the Ephesians passage at the top of your notes. How do you go about “throwing off” and “putting on”? Of the challenges Paul gives to the Christian in verses 29-32, what are the top two you need to work on?
  • Looking at the section on how we handle hurts, think about these things and discuss them in your small group, talk about them with a friend, or journal them in your quiet time with God this week. What are ways you “get even” with others that you may not have identified as such? (silent treatment, withholding, passive aggressive actions or statements, etc.) How can you respond to evil with good? Read Luke 6:27-28 and identify specific ways to show love to someone who’s hurt you or acted against you. How long have you had to keep forgiving someone until the work was really done in your heart? Are you in that place now? Take that situation to Jesus every day in surrender – he will help you! Are you sharing the Good News with others? Ask God for the boldness to share when he orchestrates it and be prepared to tell your Jesus story and invite them into their own.
  • Parents: Apologizing can be difficult for kids. This week, talk with them about what a real apology is – a genuine statement that you are sorry for something. S=say it sincerely, O=own it, R=respond differently, R=repair the damage, Y=yield to their feelings. “I’m sorry I pushed you when I got angry. I overreacted. I should have thought before I acted. What can I do to make it better? I understand that you might still be upset.”

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