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Pastor Travis Patzkowsky and Pastor Collin Crain : How to LEAD in Your Family

How to Be · 42:20 · Recorded September 11, 2022

How To LEAD In Your Family

Two truths about your role in your family:

1. We all have the power to lead in our family.

2. The biggest impact you’ll have in your family comes out of who you are.

Matthew 22:37-40 (NLT) “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”

The strategy for a happy and healthy family:

Lead with the end in mind.

Focus on what you can give rather than on what you can get.

LEADing your family well:

Look for gospel opportunities

Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (NLT) And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

Engage actively

Joshua 24:15 (NLT) “But if you refuse to serve the Lord, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”

Apologize often

1 John 1:9 (NLT) But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.

Romans 12:18 (ESV) If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.

Delight in Jesus

2 Corinthians 5:14-15 (ESV) For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised.

Colossians 3:16 (NLT) Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.

Talk It Over
  • Leadership in a family is about both authority and influence. Think about all the roles you hold in your family – parent, child, sibling, cousin, etc. In which roles do you have authority? In which do you have influence? How can you use both to LEAD in your family?

  • The first two sections of this message really focus on our individual health & growth. We can lead best when we are living a Christ-focused life. To use the strategy Travis & Collin talked about, what steps do you need to take improve your relationship with Jesus and therefore better your relationship with your family?

  • When thinking about the “E” in the LEAD acronym, how can you better engage with others? What does it mean to be present with your family? How do you see your responsibility to and for others? What will you do to make sure you aren’t “outsourcing” the responsibility that God has given you for your family?

  • Reread Matthew 22:37-40, Deuteronomy 6:5-9, and Colossians 3:16. These same sentiments are shared throughout the Bible. Break them down and do some soul searching and evaluation. Spend time with Jesus asking where he wants you to focus. Would he have you show your love for him more? More fully commit to his commands? Actively teach about him to others? Create a plan based on your quiet time and commit it to him.

  • Parents: Read Deuteronomy 6:5 with your kids. Talk with them about how we can love God with our heart, soul, and strength. Give examples of each. Help them identify how their words and actions are demonstrations of how they love God and help them make good choices in the week ahead.

Talk It Over
  • Leadership in a family is about both authority and influence. Think about all the roles you hold in your family – parent, child, sibling, cousin, etc. In which roles do you have authority? In which do you have influence? How can you use both to LEAD in your family?

  • The first two sections of this message really focus on our individual health & growth. We can lead best when we are living a Christ-focused life. To use the strategy Travis & Collin talked about, what steps do you need to take improve your relationship with Jesus and therefore better your relationship with your family?

  • When thinking about the “E” in the LEAD acronym, how can you better engage with others? What does it mean to be present with your family? How do you see your responsibility to and for others? What will you do to make sure you aren’t “outsourcing” the responsibility that God has given you for your family?

  • Reread Matthew 22:37-40, Deuteronomy 6:5-9, and Colossians 3:16. These same sentiments are shared throughout the Bible. Break them down and do some soul searching and evaluation. Spend time with Jesus asking where he wants you to focus. Would he have you show your love for him more? More fully commit to his commands? Actively teach about him to others? Create a plan based on your quiet time and commit it to him.

  • Parents: Read Deuteronomy 6:5 with your kids. Talk with them about how we can love God with our heart, soul, and strength. Give examples of each. Help them identify how their words and actions are demonstrations of how they love God and help them make good choices in the week ahead.

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