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Pastor Shane Ham and Pastor Emma Ceja : Kingdom Relationships

How to Be · 55:20 · Recorded August 28, 2022

Kingdom Relationships

Matthew 5:20-26 (NIV84) “For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven. You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell. Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still with him on the way, or he may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison. I tell you the truth, you will not get out until you have paid the last penny.”

Every human being is made in the likeness of God; therefore, every human being is infinitely precious and has infinite value.

Kingdom warnings for relationships

Don’t ever treat somebody like a nobody.

He’s talking about indifference.

Don’t ever slander somebody to another.

He’s talking about “murdering” their reputation.

Don’t ever let yourself “swell-up” with poison.

He’s talking about resentment.

1 Timothy 1:15 (KJ21) This is a faithful saying and worthy of all acceptance: that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am chief.

Galatians 3:24 (KJ21) Therefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.

Don’t ever let relationships around you fall apart.

He’s talking about personal responsibility.

Matthew 5:23-24 (NIV84) “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.”

Matthew 18:15-16 (NIV) “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’”

Kingdom living in relationships

Be quick to repent over your own relational brokenness.

Ephesians 4:26-27 (NIV) “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

Look to Jesus as the standard to live by.

Luke 10:25-26 (NIV) On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?” “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”

John 13:34-35 (NIV) “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Always act as an act of worship to the Lord.

Matthew 5:24-26 (NIV84) “…leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still with him on the way, or he may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison. I tell you the truth, you will not get out until you have paid the last penny.”

Romans 12:18 (NIV) If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Start practicing immediately!

Talk It Over
  • Do you have a broken relationship with someone? Take time now to think this through and identify it truthfully. Are you in good relationship with friends, neighbors, & coworkers? Your siblings, cousins, extended family? Your parents? With Jesus? Will you follow scripture and initiate reconciliation? Use your Connection Card to let us know how we can pray with you for this.

  • Shane said Christians understand that the difference between people is just one degree and that it is one of grace. Do you see that to be true? Do you agree that with the “right” circumstances you could act on your basest instincts? Do you agree with Paul that you also are “the chief of all sinners”? Talk about this idea in your small group.

  • What excuses do you use not to act toward forgiveness, reconciliation, or confession? Name them and ask God to show you why they aren’t valid. Pray that he’ll give you courage and confidence to step forward as you follow his will in this area.

  • How is reconciliation or restoration an act of worship to God? When you step forward with understanding or forgiveness or confession, how does God see that act and how does he see you? What will you do this week to move forward in healing your relationships?

  • Parents: Today Emma talked about how it is our responsibility to initiate reconciliation. Talk with your kids about not waiting for the other person to bring up what went wrong – they should do it first! Jesus forgave us while he was still on the cross. We can forgive others even while we’re still hurt or angry – Jesus gives us the power to do that!

Talk It Over
  • Do you have a broken relationship with someone? Take time now to think this through and identify it truthfully. Are you in good relationship with friends, neighbors, & coworkers? Your siblings, cousins, extended family? Your parents? With Jesus? Will you follow scripture and initiate reconciliation? Use your Connection Card to let us know how we can pray with you for this.

  • Shane said Christians understand that the difference between people is just one degree and that it is one of grace. Do you see that to be true? Do you agree that with the “right” circumstances you could act on your basest instincts? Do you agree with Paul that you also are “the chief of all sinners”? Talk about this idea in your small group.

  • What excuses do you use not to act toward forgiveness, reconciliation, or confession? Name them and ask God to show you why they aren’t valid. Pray that he’ll give you courage and confidence to step forward as you follow his will in this area.

  • How is reconciliation or restoration an act of worship to God? When you step forward with understanding or forgiveness or confession, how does God see that act and how does he see you? What will you do this week to move forward in healing your relationships?

  • Parents: Today Emma talked about how it is our responsibility to initiate reconciliation. Talk with your kids about not waiting for the other person to bring up what went wrong – they should do it first! Jesus forgave us while he was still on the cross. We can forgive others even while we’re still hurt or angry – Jesus gives us the power to do that!

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