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Pastor Ronnie McDougall : Dealing with My Own Temptations

Love, Sex, & Culture · 37:29 · Recorded September 26, 2021

Dealing With My Own Temptations

Proverbs 28:13 (NIV) He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy

James 1:13-15 (NIV) When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

deleazo (del-eh-ad’-zo); to entrap, allure, entice, hook

4 stages to becoming hooked:

You’re exposed to sexual impurity.

You sustain a mental injury.

You become sexually confused.

You experience periods of sexual sobriety followed by sexual binges.

Protecting the wound

1. BOUNCE YOUR EYES.

Matthew 5:27-29 (NIV) “…‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already commit-ted adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away…”

Job 31:1 (NIV) I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.

2. CAPTURE YOUR SINFUL THOUGHTS.

2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV) …we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

Philippians 4:8 (NIV) …whatever is true… noble… right… pure… lovely… admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

3. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.

Proverbs 5:8 (NIV) Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house…

1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV) Flee from sexual immorality…

pheugo (fyoo’-go); to run away, to shun, to vanish, to escape

Destroy your stash.

Ensure accountability when alone or traveling.

Protect your internet usage.

Avoid all dangerous places.

Final Thought:

As you protect the wound from further injury, God will heal your mind.

Romans 12:2 (NIV) Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

Additional Resources:

Books:

Why does God care who I sleep with? – Sam Alberry
Washed and Waiting – Wesley Hill
5 Steps to Breaking Free from Porn – Joe Dallas
Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath the Sexual Struggle – Michael John Cusick
Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair – Carder & Jaenicke
The Game Plan – Joe Dallas

Groups:

Celebrate Recovery Wednesday nights 6:30 on campus
https://www.northpointe.org/ministries/celebrate-recovery/

Commonsense: Men’s Sexual Integrity Group
Email Bob at bobreese@sbcglobal.net

New Creation Ministries
https://ncmfresno.org/

Internet Accountability Tools:

https://www.covenanteyes.com/
https://x3watch.com/

Find these resources and more at northpointe.org/lsc

Talk It Over
  • Read through the lie we often believe compared to the truth. Give your thoughts, feelings, reactions and discuss each one.

The Lie That Binds You vs. The Truth That Sets You Free

I will never be free. — Christ has set me free. (John 8:36; 2 Corinthians 3:17)

I am a product of my past. — The Cross of Christ has set me free from my past. (Romans 6:6; 2 Corinthians 5:17)

I need to rely on my own understanding. — I need to depend on and acknowledge God in all His ways. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

What I do determines who I am. — Who I believe I am determines what I do. (Ephesians 4:22-4; Proverbs 23:7b; Romans1:2)

No one would love me as I am. — God knows and loves me, even though I struggle with sin. (Romans 8:38-39; John 15:8; Jeremiah 31:3)

I am basically a bad, unworthy person. — I’m a child of God who struggles with sexual sins. (Romans 8:1-2; 2 Corinthians 5:16-17, 6:16-18)

My needs are never going to be met if I have to depend on others. — God is the only legitimate person who can meet my inward need for love and significance. He loves me and desires my freedom more than I do. (Philippians 4:19; John 7:37-38; Romans 15:13)

Because of what I’ve done and what was done to me, I am damaged goods. — Because of what Christ has done, I am a new person who is holy and pure on the inside.(1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 1:3-5, 4:24)

I am primarily a sexual person and sex is my most important need. — I am, first and foremost, a spiritual person and knowing Christ as my life is my most important need. Only He can truly satisfy me. (John 3:5-7, 4:24; Ezekiel 36:26-27; Romans 8:16; 1 Thessalonians 5:23)

If I change my behavior, I’ll change who I am as a person. — If I believe the truth of who I am in Christ, my behavior will change. (Proverbs 23:7b; Romans 12:1-2; 2 Peter 1:3-4)

Talk It Over
  • Read through the lie we often believe compared to the truth. Give your thoughts, feelings, reactions and discuss each one.

The Lie That Binds You vs. The Truth That Sets You Free

I will never be free. — Christ has set me free. (John 8:36; 2 Corinthians 3:17)

I am a product of my past. — The Cross of Christ has set me free from my past. (Romans 6:6; 2 Corinthians 5:17)

I need to rely on my own understanding. — I need to depend on and acknowledge God in all His ways. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

What I do determines who I am. — Who I believe I am determines what I do. (Ephesians 4:22-4; Proverbs 23:7b; Romans1:2)

No one would love me as I am. — God knows and loves me, even though I struggle with sin. (Romans 8:38-39; John 15:8; Jeremiah 31:3)

I am basically a bad, unworthy person. — I’m a child of God who struggles with sexual sins. (Romans 8:1-2; 2 Corinthians 5:16-17, 6:16-18)

My needs are never going to be met if I have to depend on others. — God is the only legitimate person who can meet my inward need for love and significance. He loves me and desires my freedom more than I do. (Philippians 4:19; John 7:37-38; Romans 15:13)

Because of what I’ve done and what was done to me, I am damaged goods. — Because of what Christ has done, I am a new person who is holy and pure on the inside.(1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 1:3-5, 4:24)

I am primarily a sexual person and sex is my most important need. — I am, first and foremost, a spiritual person and knowing Christ as my life is my most important need. Only He can truly satisfy me. (John 3:5-7, 4:24; Ezekiel 36:26-27; Romans 8:16; 1 Thessalonians 5:23)

If I change my behavior, I’ll change who I am as a person. — If I believe the truth of who I am in Christ, my behavior will change. (Proverbs 23:7b; Romans 12:1-2; 2 Peter 1:3-4)

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