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Pastor Shane Ham : God and Sexuality

Love, Sex, & Culture · 53:34 · Recorded September 7, 2021

God and Sexuality

Matthew 5:27-30 (NIV) “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”

Jesus on Purity & Passion:

Purity:

1. Godly sexuality is central to a human being.

Jesus knows, it is the most delightful and dangerous of our capacities!

Jesus’ teaching reminds you that you are created with intention and responsible for your choices.

2. Sex must occur in the context of total commitment.

The Bible has higher view of sex than you do!

Sex is a unitive act, uniting body, soul, mind, will, and emotions.

1 Corinthians 6:16-20 (NKJV) Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

You cannot have a whole-body commitment without a whole-life commitment!

Passion:

The definition of “lust” is “self-maximizing.”

Proverbs 11:3 (NKJV) The integrity of the upright will guide them, But the perversity of the unfaithful will destroy them.

1. Lust is the opposite of love.

What do I do with my passion?

Divorce it from “lust”.

2. Controlling lust is your job.

The Way Forward:

1. Make a distinction between the thought and the fantasy.

2. Give your sexual desire to God.

3. Don’t feel guilty about your sexual past.

Suggested resources:

Talk It Over
  • How do you explain Matthew 5:27-30 to someone? What is the main point you would want them to understand about what Jesus is saying?

  • Shane made two key points about Purity. Thinking of your personal sexual history, how have these two points played out in your life?

  • In the section on Passion, do you agree with the definition of lust presented? If you had to create a new definition, what would it be?

  • Has sex or lust ever been a problem in your life? Have you surrendered it to Jesus? Have you asked for God’s forgiveness and forgiven yourself? Remember Romans 5:8 – Christ died for us while we were still sinners! If there is something you need to release to him today, don’t hesitate. He’s waiting for you!

  • As we move forward in God’s plan for our sexuality, what are your challenges? Judgement of others, personal shame, releasing what you’ve always controlled to God’s control? Something else?

  • Parents, your children may not yet be of an age for a direct conversation about sex – but they are always ready for conversations about relationships – in families, friendships, and maybe even boy/girl relationships. The most important start we can give them is to help them understand that our relationship with Jesus has to come first for any relationship to be all that it can be. Talk to them this week about how a friendship with Jesus is really about JOY – Jesus, Others, and Yourself.

Talk It Over
  • How do you explain Matthew 5:27-30 to someone? What is the main point you would want them to understand about what Jesus is saying?

  • Shane made two key points about Purity. Thinking of your personal sexual history, how have these two points played out in your life?

  • In the section on Passion, do you agree with the definition of lust presented? If you had to create a new definition, what would it be?

  • Has sex or lust ever been a problem in your life? Have you surrendered it to Jesus? Have you asked for God’s forgiveness and forgiven yourself? Remember Romans 5:8 – Christ died for us while we were still sinners! If there is something you need to release to him today, don’t hesitate. He’s waiting for you!

  • As we move forward in God’s plan for our sexuality, what are your challenges? Judgement of others, personal shame, releasing what you’ve always controlled to God’s control? Something else?

  • Parents, your children may not yet be of an age for a direct conversation about sex – but they are always ready for conversations about relationships – in families, friendships, and maybe even boy/girl relationships. The most important start we can give them is to help them understand that our relationship with Jesus has to come first for any relationship to be all that it can be. Talk to them this week about how a friendship with Jesus is really about JOY – Jesus, Others, and Yourself.