Pastor Ronnie McDougall : 4 Stages of Parenting

Modern Parenting · 46:07 · Recorded August 20, 2023

4 Stages of Parenting

2 Timothy 1:5; 3:14-15 (NLT) 5I remember your genuine faith, for you share the faith that first filled your grandmother Lois and your mother, Eunice. And I know that same faith continues strong in you…14But you must remain faithful to the things you have been taught. You know they are true, for you know you can trust those who taught you. 15You have been taught the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus.

Stage 1


Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (NIV) 5Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Stage 2


Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

Ephesians 6:4 (NIV) Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Stage 3


Proverbs 14:12 (HCSB) There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.

A good coach equips his players for success.

Psalm 78:4-7 (NLT) We will not hide these truths from our children but will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord…so the next generation might know them — even the children not yet born — that they in turn might teach their children. So each generation can set its hope anew on God.

A good coach shows that the gain is worth the pain.

2 Corinthians 12:7-10 (NIV) “7I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. 8Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. 9But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

A good coach keeps the main thing the main thing.

Proverbs 4:23 (NLT) Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.

Stage 4


Keep your arms open and your mouth closed.

James 1:19-20 (NLT) Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.

Don’t be one topic parents.

1 Corinthians 9:22 (NIV) To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some.

2 Corinthians 1:3-5 (HCSB) 3Praise the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort. 4He comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any kind of affliction, through the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 5For as the sufferings of Christ overflow to us, so through Christ our comfort also overflows.

Our relationships with our adult kids should be filled with A.W.E.





Growing Deeper Together

What role do you play in “parenting” today’s youth? Kids or students at home? Children who are grown and gone? Support-parenting someone else’s kids? How can you be more involved?

What’s your takeaway from today’s message? What did you hear God tell you that you can put into practice?

In parenting you will take missteps along the way. Each of us fall short as parents. What area do you feel you could show yourself more grace in?

Each stage of development in a child’s life presents both moments of excitement as well as frustration. Looking back, so far, what has brought you the most joy in parenting? On the other hand, what has been your biggest challenge