Pastor Collin Crain and Pastor Travis Patzkowsky : Discipline Your Kids Will Appreciate One Day

Modern Parenting · 00 · Recorded August 27, 2023

Discipline Your Kids Will Appreciate One Day

The way God parents us shows us how to parent our kids.

Exodus 34:5:7 (CSB) The Lord came down in a cloud, stood with him there, and proclaimed his name, “the Lord.” The Lord passed in front of him and proclaimed: The Lord—the Lord is a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger and abounding in faithful love and truth, maintaining faithful love to a thousand generations, forgiving iniquity, rebellion, and sin. But he will not leave the guilty unpunished, bringing the consequences of the fathers’ iniquity on the children and grandchildren to the third and fourth generation.

• Our heavenly father disciplines because he loves us.

Hebrews 12:5-6 (NIV) My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.

• Our heavenly father moves toward us in his discipline.

Exodus 2:23-25 (CSB) 23…The Israelites groaned because of their difficult labor; and they cried out; and their cry for help because of the difficult labor ascended to God. 24God heard their groaning; and God remembered his covenant with Abraham, with Isaac, and with Jacob. 25God saw the Israelites; and God knew.

• Our heavenly father uses discipline to protect us from natural consequences.

Romans 6:23 (CSB) For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

• Our heavenly father’s discipline restores us.

Hebrews 12:10 (NIV) …but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness.

Our discipline should aim to restore our kids.

Galatians 6:1-2 (NIV) Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Galatians 5:26 (NIV) Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

How to restore our kids:

1. Always look at yourself first.

Psalm 139:23 (NIV) Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.

Ephesians 6:4 (NIV) Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

James 1:19 (NIV) My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

2. Be slow in responding with discipline.

Proverbs 26:4-5 (NIV) Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him. Answer a fool according to his folly, or he will be wise in his own eyes.

3. Be creative in helping kids restore relationships.

a. It always starts with an apology.

b. It costs more than words to fix a relationship.

James 5:16 (NIV) Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Isaiah 53:5 (NIV) But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.



Growing Deeper Together

How has God disciplined you in the past? How did you respond and what has been the result? What might your life look like today had he not provided discipline?

Thinking about the idea that discipline should move us towards restoration of broken relationships, what have you learned that helped you mend broken relationships and offenses in the past?

How do you manage the big emotions (anger, hopelessness, frustration, sadness, fear, etc.) you encounter?

Read Isaiah 53:4-9 and Philippians 2:5-8. Notice what Jesus was willing to do in order to mend a relationship with you.

Is there someone in your life you need to apologize to? What else can you do beyond an apology to mend the relationship?

No matter what stage in life you find yourself, as a member of God’s family you have an obligation to help raise the kids. How can you be a help and support to teaching kids mend broken relationships?