Pastor Shane Ham : Real Versus Ideal

Modern Parenting · 1:17 · Recorded August 13, 2023

Real versus Ideal

Isaiah 45:5-6, 9-12 (CEV) 5“Only I am the Lord! There are no other gods. I have made you strong, though you don’t know me. 6Now everyone from east to west will learn that I am the Lord. No other gods are real. … 9Israel, you have no right to argue with your Creator. You are merely a clay pot shaped by a potter. The clay doesn’t ask, “Why did you make me this way? Where are the handles?” 10Children don’t have the right to demand of their parents, “What have you done to make us what we are?” 11I am the Lord, the Creator, the holy God of Israel. Do you dare question me about my own nation or about what I have done? 12I created the world and covered it with people; I stretched out the sky and filled it with stars.”

Essential ingredients:

1. Practice depending on God.

2. Meet your kids where they are, at every stage of their life.

Philippians 2:5-11 (NIV) 5In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: 6Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; 7rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. 8And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross! 9Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, 10that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

3. Set an example that they’ll be proud to follow!

Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (NIV) 5Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

4. When you’re wrong, demonstrate humility.

Admit it.

Talk about it.

Use it.

5. Set a “grace pace” that they can follow.

Ephesians 1:5-8 (NIV) …5he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will—6to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. 7In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace 8that he lavished on us. With all wisdom and understanding…

Special Announcement:

Colossians 1:17-18 (NIV) He is before all things, and in him all things hold together. And he is the head of the body, the church; he is the beginning and the firstborn from among the dead, so that in everything he might have the supremacy.

Everything we do is for the glory of God.

While change is inevitable, God’s purposes will never change.

Growing Deeper Together

Use these points throughout the week as part of your quiet time, in your small group, or over coffee with a friend to help you apply what you learned in today’s message.

  • What role do you play in “parenting” today’s youth? Kids/students at home? Children who are grown and gone? Support-parenting someone else’s kids? How can you be more involved?
  • What’s your takeaway from Jody’s testimony? What did you hear from her that you can put into practice?
  • When thinking about point #2 and Philippians 2:5-11, are you struck by the enormity of what Christ did? Do you see your ability to do a bit of that for the kids and students you connect with? How else can you “get on their level” this week? What will you do to intentionally reach out?
  • If you have a heart for Jesus and a heart for kids/students, your church family needs you! You can speak into the lives of kids from babies to college age. Check out northpointe.org/serve and get more information about connecting with Northpointe kids and students!

Pastoral study references & attributions:Plato, 429-437 B.C.; Parenting First Aid – Hope For the Discouraged, Marty Machowski; My Promise to Alex – Through Pain Comes Purpose, Jody Hudson