Pastor Steve Williams and Pastor Shane Ham : #avoidcheapsex

Money, Sex & Power · 50:28 · Recorded June 7, 2015


1 Thessalonians 4:2-8 (NIV) You know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

1. Don’t live beneath your privilege sexually.

A higher calling

A greater power

1 John 4:4 (NKJV) He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.

2. Come into the light with your brokenness.

Open confession brings cleansing.

Proverbs 28:13 (HCSB) The one who conceals his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them will find mercy.

Light always conquers darkness.

Ephesians 5:8-14 (TEV) You yourselves used to be in the darkness, but since you have become the Lord’s people, you are in the light. So you must live like people who belong to the light, for it is the light that brings a rich harvest of every kind of goodness, righteousness, and truth. Try to learn what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the worthless things that people do, things that belong to the darkness. Instead, bring them out to the light…when all things are brought out to the light, then their true nature is clearly revealed; for anything that is clearly revealed becomes light. That is why it is said, “Wake up, sleeper, and rise from death, and Christ will shine on you.”

3. Embrace repentance as your route to freedom.

Acts 3:19-20 (NLT) “Repent of your sins and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped away. Then times of refreshment will come from the presence of the Lord…”

4. Shut every door of compromise you’ve been using.

Serious spiritual surgery is required!

Matthew 5:29-30 (HCSB)  If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of the parts of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.  And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of the parts of your body than for your whole body to go into hell!

5. Assess the damage and address the cleanup.

6. Live faithfully, regardless of who doesn’t!

Psalm 12:8 (NIV) The wicked freely strut about when what is vile is honored among men.

Philippians 2:15-16 (NET) Be blameless and pure, children of God without blemish though you live in a crooked and perverse society, in which you shine as lights in the world by holding on to the Word of life.

  • What ideas from last week’s message came into focus or stood in great contrast to you in living this last week?
  • Read 1 Thessalonians 4:2-8. What does “sanctification” mean? How does God say our sexuality will be affected by His sanctifying work in our lives? What encouragement do you find in this passage in light of today’s cultural norms for sex and sexuality?
  • What are some differences Christ followers should have from those who do not know God? What common arguments or excuses do we tend to use to rationalize our wrong responses to sexual temptations? Why can these seem so persuasive?
  • Read Proverbs 7:6-23 and Hebrews 4:15. When do sexual temptations cross the line to become sin? How can we sometimes bring temptation on ourselves? What steps are you learning to take to guard yourself from this?
  • Look over the 6 action points reflected on your message outline. Which of these tends to come most naturally to you? Which of these do you find to be the most challenging? Why? How can others (perhaps in your small group) help you to positively respond to this challenge in a fresh or new way?
  • Depending on their age it’s important to talk with your kids about how to say “no” to sexual pressure before marriage. Take some time and read Joseph’s story from Genesis 39:1-23 and discuss the following: Why was it so important to Joseph that he not give in to the sexual pressure he was feeling at the time? What reasons did he give for not doing wrong (see verse 8-9)? What did Joseph do to resist sexual temptation that we can use to guard ourselves? Why do you think this matters so to God? Assure your kids that they’re loved no matter what, you care for them in this area of their lives, and want to protect them from harm. Communicate that you welcome them to talk with you about any subject! Be praying for their character formation regularly.
  • This Is Amazing Grace- PW

  • Jesus Saves (Carlos Whitaker)

  • Give Me Faith

  • The Lord Our God

  • Your Love Never Fails


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