Pastor Shane Ham : Getting Rid of Your Grinch

Not-So Merry Gentlemen · 44:57 · Recorded December 15, 2019

Getting Rid of Your Grinch!

Hebrews 12:15 (NLT2) Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.

The roots of a bitter heart:

What people say about us.

Proverbs 12:18 (TEV) Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as any sword.

What people think about us.

Job 19:5 (NLT2) You think you’re better than I am, using my humiliation as evidence of my sin.

What people do to us.

Job 19:19 (TEV) My closest friends look at me with disgust; those I loved most have turned against me.

Why bitterness is unreasonable:

Ephesians 4:26-27, 31-32 (NIV) "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold… Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Because God’s forgiven me.

Because it doesn’t work.

Job 5:2 (NLT2) Surely resentment destroys the fool, and jealousy kills the simple.

Job 18:4 (NCV) You tear yourself to pieces in your anger. Should the earth be vacant just for you? Should the rocks move from their places?

Ecclesiastes 7:9 (TEV) It is foolish to harbor a grudge.

Job 21:23-25 (GNT) Some people stay healthy till the day they die; they die happy… Others have no happiness at all; they live and die with bitter hearts.

Because I’ll need more forgiveness in the future!

Matthew 6:14-15 (NLT2) "If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins."

A side note:

You cannot receive what you’re unwilling to give.

His grace empowers your forgiveness.

2 Peter 3:38 (NIV) But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.

Deuteronomy 7:7-8 (NLT) "The Lord did not set his heart on you and choose you because you were more numerous than other nations, for you were the smallest of all nations! Rather, it was simply that the Lord loves you…"

How to let it go:

1. Relinquish your right to get even.

Romans 12:19 (TLB) Dear friends, never avenge yourselves. Leave that to God, for he has said that he will repay those who deserve it. [Don’t take the law into your own hands.]

Matthew 18:21-22 (TLB) Then Peter came to him and asked, "Sir, how often should I forgive a brother who sins against me? Seven times?" "No!" Jesus replied, "seventy times seven! "

2. Remember that they’re human too!

3. Refocus on God’s purpose for your life.

Ephesians 6:10-12 (NLT2) A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in the dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

4. Respond to evil with good!

Romans 12:21 (NLT2) Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.

  • Read Romans 12:18. What efforts have you made to “live in peace with all”?

  • When anger begins to build in your heart what are the steps you take to see that you do not sin? Share this in your small group to help one another manage anger in a Godly way.

  • Letting go of resentment and bitterness by forgiving the person who has wronged you doesn’t mean excusing the hurtful behavior but choosing to leave it in God’s hands. Can you recall specific examples of the freedom you felt when you forgave someone else for hurting you?

  • When we talk about letting anger, bitterness, or resentment go, we need to look at forgiveness in three directions: from God to us, from us to others, and from us to ourselves. Self-directed anger and unforgiveness can affect our souls just as deeply as when it is others-directed. Spend time in prayer today thanking God for his forgiveness of you and asking for his help to forgive both others and yourself. Welcome the Holy Spirit’s help and guidance in this process!

  • In relationships that fail, do you believe it is because one or both parties didn’t try hard enough? What can be done to see that people who are torn apart, despite their best efforts, do not also miss the grace of God?

  • Elementary Parents, our bottom-line today is God sent Jesus to be our Savior. Ask kids how the Savior arrived. (As a baby.) Where was Jesus placed after He was born? (In a manger.) God knew we needed a Savior to rescue us from our sins. Jesus was EXACTLY the kind of Savior that we needed. His birth really was the BEST GIFT EVER.

  • O Come All Ye Faithful

  • Great Things

  • Reckless Love

  • Highlands

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