Pastor Shane Ham : Helping Others Live in Reality

Reality Check · 42:57 · Recorded November 12, 2017

Helping Others Live In Reality

Mark 10:32-37, 42-45 (NLT) 32They were now on the way up to Jerusalem, and Jesus was walking ahead of them…Taking the twelve disciples aside, Jesus once more began to describe everything that was about to happen to him. 33“Listen,” he said, “we’re going up to Jerusalem, where the Son of Man will be betrayed to the leading priests and the teachers of religious law. They will sentence him to die and hand him over to the Romans. 34They will mock him, spit on him, flog him with a whip, and kill him…” 35Then James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came over and spoke to him. “Teacher,” they said, “we want you to do us a favor.” 36“What is your request?” he asked. 37They replied, “When you sit on your glorious throne, we want to sit in places of honor next to you, one on your right and the other on your left.” … 42So Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. 43But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, 44and whoever wants to be first among you must be the slave of everyone else. 45For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

1. Take a good look at yourself first.

Matthew 7:3-5 (NCV) “Why do you notice the little piece of dust in your friend’s eye, but you don’t notice the big piece of wood in your own eye? How can you say to your friend, ‘Let me take that little piece of dust out of your eye’? Look at yourself! You still have that big piece of wood in your own eye. You hypocrite! First, take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to take the dust out of your friend’s eye.

2. Evaluate why you want to help.

John 10:10 (NLT) My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.

3. Have an honest and vulnerable conversation.

Ephesians 4:15 (NLT) Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.

4. Let love lead your way.

John 1:14 (NIV) The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us… The One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.

5. Model what you’re looking for.

Matthew 23:2-4 (ESV) “The scribes and the Pharisees… they preach, but do not practice. They tie up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to move them with their finger.”

John 5:17 (NLT) But Jesus replied, “My Father is always working, and so am I.”

6. Speak vision into their life.

Proverbs 29:18 (KJV) Where there is no vision, the people perish.

Matthew 4:19 (ESV) And he said to them, “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.”

7. Call them to action.

Mark 6:7 (NLT) And he called his twelve disciples together and began sending them out two by two, giving them authority.

8. Stick with them for the long haul.

Galatians 6:9 (NLT) So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.

Philippians 1:6 (NASB) For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.

9. Celebrate their best moments!

10. Ask God to empower all your efforts.

Great Questions for Great Action

  • Does their plan start today?
  • Does it include specific and attainable steps?
  • Does their plan engage their passion?
  • Is their plan challenging enough?
  • Who does their plan include?
  • Does their plan encourage dependency on God?

John 15:5 (NLT) For apart from me you can do nothing.

Read Mark 10:32-37, 42-45. Where do you see “entitlement” in these passages? Do you see this in the culture around you today?

What was the greatest takeaway from today’s message? What was the biggest challenge for you? What was the greatest encouragement? Share with your small group.

Ponder Points 1 and 2. Take some time with God. Ask him to reveal any issues with entitlement in your own life. Discuss with your small group. Take time to pray together.

Proverbs 29:18 says, “Where there is no vision, people perish.” How do you speak vision into another person’s life – what do you say? Has someone done this for you? When? Have you been able to do this for someone else? Share with your group and help one another discover this beautiful gift of encouragement!

Review the “Great Questions for Great Action” and talk through each one to make sure you understand it. Are you prepared to help a friend if they approached you today? Are you presenting yourself as approachable? Do your friends know they can count on you to stick with them? Pray that God will help you to be aware, available, and prepared when called on to help.

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