Pastor Steve Williams : It’s Really NOT About You

Reality Check · 36:40 · Recorded October 29, 2017

It’s Really NOT About You!

Luke 9:23-24 (NLT) Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it.”

Entitlement symptoms:

Thinking we’re special, unique, or exceptional.

Feeling we’re owed or deserving of what we want.

An unwillingness, even a refusal to accept responsibility.

Galatians 6:2-5 (NIV) Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself…for each one should carry his own load.

Proverbs 19:18-19 (TEV) Discipline your children while they are young enough to learn. If you don't, you are helping them destroy themselves. If someone has a hot temper, let him take the consequences. If you get him out of trouble once, you will have to do it again.

The avoidance of anything hard or demanding.

Titus 3:14 (NJB) All our people must also learn to occupy themselves in doing good works for their practical needs, and not to be unproductive.

A sense that rules don’t really apply to us.

Blindness to the impact of our behavior on others.

An inability to face up & respond to reality.

Proverbs 12:11; 28:19 (NIV) The one who works his land will have plenty of food, but whoever chases fantasies lacks sense…The one who works his land will have plenty of food, but whoever chases fantasies will have his fill of poverty.

The antidote Jesus administers

1. Get liberated at last from your self-defeat!

Romans 16:11 (NJB) Greetings to those who belong to the Lord in the household of Narcissus.

Galatians 2:20-21 (MSG) “I have been crucified with Christ. My ego is no longer central…Christ lives in me. The life you see me living is not ‘mine,’ but it is lived by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. I am not going to go back on that.”

2. Take his pathway to your self-development.

Matthew 11:28-30 (TEV) “Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke and put it on you, and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit; and you will find rest. For the yoke I will give you is easy, and the load I will put on you is light.”

Choosing self-denial, self-discipline, self-investment, self-sacrifice.

3. Grab the best shot at your self-discovery.

Colossians 1:16 (BBE) For by him all things were made, in heaven and on earth, things seen and things unseen…all things were made by him and for him.

Finding your truest, intended self!

Study & Discussion Questions
  • What’s an example of someone you’ve encountered with a big sense of entitlement? What emotions did it elicit?

  • When is a time you become aware that you were operating with an assumption of entitlement you were “owed” or due? What did you do about it? How did it go for you?

  • Read Luke 9:23-24. Identify each of the clear phrases and statements of truth Jesus speaks. Point out which you personally find to be most challenging. Which of his statements have you seen be most true to life in your experience?

  • How many of the entitlement symptoms do you find yourself identifying uncomfortably with? Do you find it’s harder to deal with these within yourself or with someone else you must do life with? Why? What do you think you need to begin doing differently?

  • Read Proverbs 12:11 and 28:19. Why do you think these proverbs are included in the Bible? What are the differences between fantasy and reality? How do you know when you’re indulging in one and ignoring the other?

  • What ideas from this message have you found yourself pondering? What scriptures from this message or from your own study of the Bible do you find most comforting in light of this focus on entitlement?

  • Hi, parents of elementary students. Today was our final lesson on patience. Our bottom line was “sometimes patience requires trust in God.” Your kids learned the story about Noah today. Talk about a guy who needed a lot of patience! Ask your kids how long it took Noah to build the ark. What did his friends and neighbors have to say while he was building the ark? Was he on the ark for a short or a long time? There are times when our patience runs out. We can be thankful that God will help us have patience in those situations if we ask him.

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