Pastor Shane Ham : Forgiven and Forgiving

Remedy · 29:20 · Recorded March 14, 2021

Forgiven and Forgiving

Giving grace is always the product of receiving grace.

Matthew 18:21-35 (NIV) Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. "Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. "The servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. "But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded. "His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’ "But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened. "Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. "This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."

Matthew 25:31-33, 41-45 (NIV) "When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his throne in heavenly glory. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left. …"Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’ "They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’ "He will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.

The Gospel: You have forgiven an infinite debt, so that ever single moment of your life is a gift of grace.

How do I forgive a person who’s wronged me?

Matthew 18:27 (NIV) The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

1. I identify with the person who’s wronged me.

2. I cancel their debt. They no longer owe me.

Mark 11:25 (NLT2) “But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.”

3. I let them go.

Hebrews 12:15 (NASB) See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled.

  • Reread the Matthew 18 scripture at the top of your notes.
    • In refusing to be merciful to others, what do we deny ourselves?
    • Do we forgive others so God will forgive us or does God forgive us so we will have a forgiving attitude? Explain.
    • Based on this parable, is God’s forgiveness of us limited or unlimited? Conditional or unconditional? Likewise, our forgiveness of others?
  • If bitterness is the result of unforgiveness, then what do you see is the result of forgiveness? Condoning? Forgetting? Avoiding? Mercy? Release? What is the connection between forgiveness, health, & wholeness?

  • What fruit in your life is revealing that you have the love of Christ in you? Remember, it’s not the fruit that gives the tree life, it’s the fruit that reveals that the tree has life.

  • In the three points Shane laid out, think about these questions and share about them in your small group or journal your answers:
    • How can seeing the person who wronged you with fresh eyes help you to forgive them? Have you ever viewed someone as a caricature (an exaggerated version of themself)?
    • Instead of someone “owing” you for the pain they’ve caused, forgiveness means absorbing that yourself. Think about a specific person you haven’t forgiven or are struggling to forgive. What would canceling their debt to you mean in that situation? If you don’t forgive the debt – what is the cost to you? How will you end up paying in the long run?
    • The king in the parable let the servant go. What steps do you need to take to let the person who wronged you go? Are you dealing with the roots?
    • Forgiveness is modeled for us by Jesus, and we have the strength to forgive through his power. Who do you need to release today to free yourself?
  • Parents – Check out the information on our kid’s page at northpointe.org/kids where you’ll find info on Sunday services and family resources to help you as you navigate this current season.

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