Pastor Steve Williams : Marriage, Divorce, Adultery and Eunuchs

Strange Things Jesus Said · 48:08 · Recorded August 25, 2019

Marriage, Divorce, Adultery & Eunuchs?

This week’s Scripture: Matthew 19:3-12 (p. 873)

Jesus on marriage

Marriage is a covenant with God between a man and a woman, who are freely & totally committed to one another as companions for life.

A holy institution from God.

“He who created them in the beginning made them male and female …What God has joined together…”

Hebrews 13:4 (CSB) Marriage is to be honored by all and the marriage bed kept undefiled, because God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.

An exclusive relationship of unity.

“A man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife… Let man not separate”

A lifelong journey into growth.

“The two will become one flesh…So they are no longer two, but one…”

1 Corinthians 7:14 (CSB) The unbelieving husband is made holy by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy by the husband.

Jesus on divorce

God’s merciful concession to sin.

“Moses permitted you to divorce…”

Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (CSB) “If a man marries a woman, but she becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, he may write her a divorce certificate, hand it to her, and send her away from his house. If after leaving his house she goes and becomes another man’s wife, and the second man hates her, writes her a divorce certificate, hands it to her, and sends her away from his house or if he dies, the first husband who sent her away may not marry her again after she has been defiled, because that would be detestable to the LORD. You must not bring guilt on the land…”

The true cause of any divorce.

“…because of the hardness of your hearts.”

Malachi 2:14-16 (NIV) The LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not [the LORD] made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.

The dilemma of remarriage after divorce.

“Whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality and marries another commits adultery.”

The possibility of remarriage & no marriage

1. Don’t ignore the rest of the Bible’s teachings that touch this.

2. Don’t seek a way out, but God’s way forward!

3. Marriage isn’t a right to demand, but always a gracious gift of God.

Proverbs 18:22 (CSB) A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.

1 Peter 3:7 (TLB) Remember that you and your wife are partners in receiving God’s blessings.

4. Marriage isn’t a one-size-fits-all reality!

1 Corinthians 7:7 (NLT) God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to others the gift of singleness.

Saying I do, I don’t, and I can’t.

Isaiah 56:3-5 (NLT) “Don’t let the eunuchs say, ‘I’m a dried-up tree with no children and no future.’ For this is what the LORD says: I will bless those eunuchs who keep my Sabbath days holy and who choose to do what pleases me and commit their lives to me. I will give them—within the walls of my house— a memorial and a name far greater than sons and daughters could give. For the name I give them is an everlasting one. It will never disappear!”

Your true identity lies deeper than your marital status.

Talk It Over

  • Take time to read the passage from Matthew 19:3-12. What comes to your mind when you hear each of the following words: Marriage? Divorce? Adultery? Re-marriage? Singleness?

  • How have you been touched most deeply by divorce in your life experience? What was your Mom’s advice to you about marriage? Dad’s?

  • What are the most hopeful, inspiring or helpful ideas you heard in this message about marriage?  How has your thinking about marriage as a covenant between God, a woman and a man been challenged or encouraged by this message?  How would you define “covenant marriage” and where have you seen a great example of it?

  • Which of the scriptures from this message have you found yourself mulling over most? Which would you like to have better understanding of? If you had been in on the discussion with Jesus and the Pharisees, what question would you have wanted to ask Jesus about what he said to them (or to his disciples later)?

  • Do Jesus’ words, “What God has joined together”, apply to all marriages, or only the marriage of believers?

  • What implications are there from this passage about how we should look upon those who are unmarried? Re-married? Engaged to be married? How does knowing Jesus change how we look at these personal situations?

  • Lion And The Lamb

  • Love So Great

  • Hallelujah For The Cross

  • Raise A Hallelujah

  • Build My Life


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