The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
– Proverbs 12:18
I am a people watcher. I love having the opportunity to sit on the outskirts of a large crowd somewhere and just observe others. Whether it’s a beach or a theme park or a restaurant, I am fascinated by the actions and words of others. As I’ve people watched over the years, I’ve noticed a few things…
- People often say unkind things to one another.
- Parents belittle their children a lot.
- Spouses can be really rude to one another.
Now, I’m sure these observations don’t reveal anything new or surprising, but, they occur so frequently that I can’t help but notice the nastiness that can come out of our mouths at times. It’s no wonder this proverb tells us that our words can pierce like swords. I know that holding your tongue takes self-control and a certain degree of humility, but, people, the results are amazing! When an emotion is triggered in us and we want to cast a verbal dagger…don’t! When someone exhausts your patience and a strong reaction would make you feel better…don’t!
As a spouse and parent, I’ve learned that I don’t need to say everything that I think. When I slip up and allow certain things to escape my mouth, I end up wounding others, triggering more reactions, demeaning those I love, and creating negative memories.
Here’s the deal. Words are powerful. But, misguided words can hurt deeply. Think about your misguided words as stabbing another person with a sword. We might be more apt to use wisdom before speaking so that healing can take place instead.
Try this today: don’t say everything you think! Just because you think it, doesn’t mean you have to say it. Use your words for healing today!! God bless you, my friends and have a great day!!