JHM Material, 10/24

Love must be without hypocrisy. Detest evil; cling to what is good. Show family affection to one another with brotherly love. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not lack diligence; be fervent in spirit; serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope; be patient in affliction; be persistent in prayer. Share with the saints in their needs; pursue hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep. Be in agreement with one another. Do not be proud; instead, associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own estimation. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Try to do what is honorable in everyone’s eyes. If possible, on your part, live at peace with everyone. Friends, do not avenge yourselves; instead, leave room for His wrath. For it is written: Vengeance belongs to Me; I will repay, says the Lord. But If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him something to drink. For in so doing you will be heaping fiery coals on his head. Do not be conquered by evil, but conquer evil with good. Romans 12:9-21

This section of the Bible has the heading “Christian ethics” and in it Paul gives instructions on how Christians should interact with each other. Believers are to show love in action: showing brotherly love without hypocrisy, showing affection to one another, giving selflessly, acting on our hope, patience, and steadfastness. These actions demonstrate our faith in God. Meeting a believer’s physical needs and inviting believers into our homes are tangible acts of love that Paul encourages believers to perform. How we treat our enemies is an indication of our spiritual maturity. We can overcome evil directed towards us by our love in action. (from Love God Greatly – Made for Community, YouVersion)


Leader Tip

This weekend we took a group of students to the Hume Lake Girls Retreat and during our time there, we attended a seminar. One was on reconciliation and because this is a tough part of being a Christ-follower, I thought I’d share the notes.

Main idea: Our God is a God of unity and not of division.

Main passage: Ephesians 4:1-16

Real and legit hurt is real and legit hurt no matter whose “fault” it is.

If we call Jesus, Lord, we will want to be more like Him.

Understanding the call: 

We serve the same God, in the same mission but we are unique in the ways we live it out (due to different gifts, personality, experiences, etc).

Our mission:

Know God and make God known…glorify Him.

How do we become agents of unity and reconciliation?

  1. Understand that maintaining reconciliation take effort whether we think the other person deserves it or not.
  2. We take steps toward the person.
  3. We speak the truth in love
    1. Not via text or even a phone call. Do it in person.
    2. Explain why reconciliation is worth it.
    3. Check your heart.
    4. Exercise humility.
  4. We assume the best in others.
  5. We quickly admit when we’re wrong and ask for forgiveness.
    1. We understand our own grace is completely unearned.
  6. We understand we can only control our own thoughts, actions, response.

If possible, on your part, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18


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10/21-Health Faire Outreach (9am-3pm)
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TUESDAY, 10/24

OPENING GAME: TBA Halloween Edition


Jesus And Culture

Lesson 2: Different Then The Rest


What we want students to learn: That Jesus wants His followers to be countercultural in their humility, living in the world as servants of others.


What we want students to do with what they’ve learned: To identify any actions or attitudes in their lives that represent seeking culture’s definition of success through selfishness, and to commit to embracing Jesus’ idea of success through serving others.


Scripture Focus: Mark 10:35-45


Supporting Scripture: Ephesians 4:2


Overview: The culture most of our students engage with is one of full-fledged “me-ism.” This generation of teenagers has been called “Generation Me” for a reason. They’re the “selfie” generation. And though adults shoulder our share of the blame for enabling and allowing much of this behavior (even oftentimes mimicking it!), the truth remains: culture sends quite loudly the message that our own interests trump the interests of others. To get ahead is to self promote. Image is everything. Teenagers are their own brand. And getting ahead often means putting others well behind themselves. The only problem is that this is the opposite of how Jesus urges His followers to interact with the world. In this lesson, your students will hear what Jesus had to say about humility and service, and how these attributes are to be hallmarks of the Christ-follower’s engagement with the culture.



The following is what will be on the outline that students will be given for service.  The part labeled “Front” is what will be taught during the message/teaching time.  The part labeled “Back” is for your group to work through in order to dig deeper into the highlighted scripture.






Mark 10:35-45


  • We live in a “ME” centered culture.


MAIN IDEA: We are called to be IN the world but not OF the world

  • Romans 12:2


How do we live different?


  1. Serve others by PUTTING THEM FIRST
    • Philippians 2:3


  1. Serve others by ENCOURAGING THEM
    • 1 Thessalonians 5:11


  1. Serve others when its HARDEST


  • Serve others at school
  • Serve others at home






Romans 12:2

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Scripture of Focus:


  • What is one thing that stood out to you in this passage?


  • Why do you think it stood out to you?


  • What can you apply to your life from this passage?


Discussion Questions

Use the following questions to further your discussion as a group.  You can either do these after your Scripture of Focus time or you can use them within your scripture focus time to add to the conversation as a whole.  As always you are welcome to guide the discussion the best that you and your co-leader think fits your group.

  1. What areas of your life are you more “Me” centered than “others” centered?
  2. Do you serve others with your words? (Are you encouraging?)
  3. What would it look like to serve your friends at school? What about serving your family at home?


Close in prayer at 8:25ish