JHM Material, 1/9

For this reason also, since the day we heard this, we haven’t stopped praying for you. We are asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, so that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to Him, bearing fruit in every good work and growing in the knowledge of God. May you be strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might, for all endurance and patience, with joy giving thanks to the Father, who has enabled you to share in the saints’ inheritance in the light. He has rescued us from the domain of darkness and transferred us into the kingdom of the Son He loves. We have redemption, the forgiveness of sins, in Him.

Colossians 1:9-14

Leader Tip: 5 Essentials People Want From A Leader

What do people want from their church leader?
You might be a senior pastor, volunteer small group leader, campus pastor, head usher, student pastor, or leader of the parking team.
Ultimately, people want the same basic things from you as a leader.
Some of the people you serve may place a lot of demands on you, and you’ll go crazy if you try to meet all those demands.
But I have found, in general, that most people are reasonable, and at the core, they want the same essentials from a leader.

If you let the few “unreasonable” people consume your time, wear you out, and beat you down, you’ll never move forward. Be kind but say no. Love them but hold firm. If they leave, let them know they are welcome to come back.
Focus your energy on these 5 ESSENTIALS that reasonable people want.

1) They want to know that you are full of faith.
Leaders possess great faith. Faith in the achievability of the vision, and faith in the fact that God is with you in that vision. If you don’t have confidence, your people won’t!
However, we also stumble in our faith, experience seasons of lesser faith, and moments of uncertainty. You need a place to be honest about the level of your faith. This will be helpful as you learn to cultivate faith as a leader.
It helps me to reflect on the things God has done in the past. When I remember what He has done, I’m refreshed and renewed about what He can do. It’s God’s church! He wants it to succeed!

2) They want to know where you’re going.
People are busy, and they carefully evaluate their hours each day more than ever before. Even just a couple hours on a Sunday. Because of this, they look for value, not just activity when attending church.

Essentially, we compete with all the demands of people’s lives. The good news is that what we do through the church revolves around a purpose of arguably ultimate value.
Therefore, your mission-critical responsibility is to be clear on your purpose and where you are headed, regardless of your specific role as a leader.
It’s important that you clearly and succinctly communicate the direction your vision takes the church, your campus, team, or group.
If the people you lead know where you are going, they can help you get there.

3) They want to know that you care.
It was over thirty years ago that my friend and mentor John Maxwell first said to me,
“Dan, people don’t care how much you know till they know how much you care.”
That changed my leadership life!
How well do you communicate that you love and care about the people you serve? Caring about people isn’t automatic. You’ve probably experienced a professor, doctor, waiter or boss that you’re pretty sure just didn’t care.
Loving someone and genuinely caring about them is something that must be intentionally cultivated when you work with so many people. It might be easier with, for example, just your family. But when there are dozens, hundreds or thousands, it requires significant leadership energy at a heart level.

4) They want to know that you are positive.
In the same way, people don’t follow insecure leaders; they don’t want to be around negative leaders either.
Positivity isn’t about hype and selling. Sincerity is essential. Being a positive leader is related to faith, but carries the more practical side of being a cheerful person who sees the cup half full. A positive attitude is not reserved for those who were “born that way.” Any personality can do this. Attitude is a choice.
Positivity doesn’t conflict with reality; it improves it.

When we approach problems and difficult situations with a positive disposition, it’s amazing how much better it goes.

5) They want to know that you are trustworthy.
This is so important. Trust is the currency all leadership is based on. If you blow trust, you are a bankrupt leader.
The two primary components that make a leader trustworthy are character and competence. You can be a leader of solid integrity, but if you’re not good at what you do, they won’t trust you. You may be brilliant in leadership, but if your character is flawed, the people won’t trust you. It’s that simple, and that complicated.
Honesty, transparency, and working on your craft are key to the continued cultivation of trust.


Upcoming Stuff:

1/7 – JHM Leadership Lab & Boxsled Blitz Build

1/14 – JHM Ledership Lab

1/19-21 – United Fresno Winter Camp

1/20 – Maddie’s Birthday!


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Leader Meeting:
Please make it a priority to be at the wherehouse by 6:30pm to go over the details of the evening and to pray together. Send a message through GroupMe or text AJ at 906-7157 if you’ll be late or won’t be there.



Opening Game: Movie Posers
Divide students into groups of 5-6. We will have movie posters on the big screen up front and groups have to pose like the posters. Leaders will make the rounds and give “points” to the groups that do it best. Hosts will lead from the front and pump up the crowd.

Jesus And Mean People

Lesson 1: Thankful For Mean People?

What we want students to learn: That when people are mean to them for no reason, they should see it as a blessing, not a bad situation.

What we want students to do with what they’ve learned: To identify a time when someone has been mean to them, even though they did nothing wrong, and to see if they can see how God might have worked something positive as a result.

Scripture Focus: Matthew 5:10-12

Overview: The unfortunate truth about most mean people is that they rarely need a reason to be mean. Every one of your students has experienced a time where they found themselves in a mean person’s crosshairs due to no fault of their own. Jesus speaks to this very issue in Matthew. He says that when we’re living as Christ-followers and people are mean to us, we should count it as a blessing. Of course, we realize that this is completely counterintuitive to how we think about people being mean to us. This lesson will challenge your students to look for positives in the midst of people mistreating them, especially if that positive is God gaining glory from it.



The following is what will be on the outline that students will be given for service. The part labeled “Front” is what will be taught during the message/teaching time. The part labeled “Back” is for your group to work through in order to dig deeper into the highlighted scripture.


Matthew 5:10-12

Those who are persecuted for righteousness are blessed,
for the kingdom of heaven is theirs. “You are blessed when they insult and persecute you and falsely say every kind of evil against you because of Me. Be glad and rejoice, because your reward is great in heaven. For that is how they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

Mean people are a Blessing.

2 Timothy 3:12
In fact, all those who want to live a Godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.

2 Corinthians 12:8-10
Concerning this, I pleaded with the Lord three times to take it away from me. 9 But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power[a] is perfected in weakness.” Therefore, I will most gladly boast all the more about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may reside in me. 10 So I take pleasure in weaknesses, insults, catastrophes, persecutions, and in pressures, because of Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.



2 Corinthians 12:8-10
Concerning this, I pleaded with the Lord three times to take it away from me. 9 But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power[a] is perfected in weakness.” Therefore, I will most gladly boast all the more about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may reside in me. 10 So I take pleasure in weaknesses, insults, catastrophes, persecutions, and in pressures, because of Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.


• What is one thing that stood out to you in this passage?


• Why do you think it stood out to you?


• What can you apply to your life from this passage?

Discussion Questions

Use the following questions to further your discussion as a group. You can either do these after your Scripture of Focus time or you can use them within your scripture focus time to add to the conversation as a whole. As always you are welcome to guide the discussion the best that you and your co-leader think fits your group.

Have you ever been persecuted for your faith? If so, how did you handle it?

If you have never been persecuted for your faith, why do you think that is?

The next time you are persecuted for the way you live, how would you like to respond?


Close in prayer at 8:25ish