Lord, be gracious to us! We wait for You. Be our strength every morning and our salvation in time of trouble. Isaiah 33:2
Leader Tip: What to Do When a Teen is Suicidal
If you’re in youth ministry, you will inevitably encounter a teen who is at least somewhat suicidal. It’s a scary thing that must be taken seriously. Because of its danger, I’ll cut to the chase here and get to the most important things that you must do when a kid is suicidal.
These are the four most commonly recognized important questions to ask of a person who may be at risk of suicide. This is a good place for you to start. However, you must have a mental health professional conduct a more thorough assessment if needed.
PLAN – Do you have a suicide plan?
MEANS – Do you have what you need to carry out your plan (pills, gun, etc.)?
TIME – Do you know when you would do it?
INTENTION – Do you intend to commit suicide?
Below is a grid that will help you determine their risk level.
Level of Suicide Risk
LOW – Some suicidal thoughts. No suicide plan. Say they won’t commit suicide.
MODERATE – Suicidal thoughts. Vague, non-lethal plan. Say they won’t commit suicide.
HIGH – Suicidal thoughts. Specific, highly lethal plan. Has access to means. Say they won’t commit suicide.
SEVERE – Suicidal thoughts. Specific, highly lethal plan. Has access to means. Say they will commit suicide.
IF RISK IS LOW TO MODERATE
Contact parents/guardians if there is even a low risk. You have an ethical and legal obligation to inform them. You’re risking the teen’s life, your position and your church’s viability if you don’t. Encourage parents to bring their teen to see a counselor for an assessment.
IF RISK IS HIGH TO SEVERE
Stay with the teen, call their parents first then bring them to the local hospital emergency room or call 911. If your conversation is over the phone, stay on the phone with them while contacting authorities on another line if possible. If necessary, hang up and call 911 immediately.
When a teen is at their lowest point they need you or some other caring adult to walk beside them through this dark valley. Don’t give up on them. Don’t hand them off to the professionals and forget about them. Don’t allow your discomfort and self-doubt keep you from walking with them. Simply the faithfulness of your relationship, love and care will help them more than you realize.
This information is not a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment. This information and more is provided by HELPGUIDE.ORG.
3/9-11 – NP Men’s Man Camp
3/11 – JHM Leadership Lab & Daylight Savings Time (Spring Forward 1 Hour)
3/13 – Jake Bowser’s Birthday! (AJ’s kiddo)
3/18 – JHM Leadership Lab
3/25 – JHM Leadership Lab & Baptism Weekend
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Opening Game: Splat
All players stand in a circle, one person is nominated as “splatter” and stands in the middle, they randomly point at someone and yell “splat!” The person that was pointed to then ducks, and the two people on either side of them then must “splat” each other by pointing at each other and yelling “splat!” the last one to do so is out. This continues until there are only two people left in the circle. The two-remaining stand back to back. The person that was in the middle counts from 1-20, and with each number the two players step away from one another. At any random time, the counter yells “splat!” instead of a number and the two remaining players “quick draw” style point to their opponent and yell splat, the first to point is the winner.
Lesson 2: The Trial
What we want students to learn: During the arrest and trial of Jesus, He faced many people and situations that the crowd watching would have considered humiliating. Where they thought they saw Jesus being humiliated, He was actually humbly choosing to endure on their behalf. Jesus took on the sins, shame and wrongdoings of those in the crowd, and all of us, out of love and humility.
What we want students to do with what they’ve learned: To know that Christ took the role of the sacrifice so that we don’t have to. And that as Christ followers, we should show humility and live for God instead of caving in to what the world says is humiliation.
Scripture Focus: Matthew 27
The following is what will be on the outline that students will be given for service. The part labeled “Front” is what will be taught during the message/teaching time. The part labeled “Back” is for your group to work through in order to dig deeper into the highlighted scripture.
HUMILITY VS. HUMILIATION: THE TRIAL
JESUS TOOK OUR PLACE
CROWD: OUR SIN PUT JESUS ON TRIAL, NOT THE CROWDS ACCUSATIONS
MY SIN YELLED “CRUCIFY” LOUDER THAN THE MOB THAT DAY
COWARD: JESUS TOOK THE SHAME SO THAT WE DIDN’T HAVE TO
HE TAKES THE HEAT WHEN WE’RE AFRAID TO
CONDEMNED: JESUS DOES THE TIME EVEN THOUGH WE DID THE CRIME
HE DIED SO THAT I CAN LIVE
Scripture of Focus:
But God knew what would happen, and his prearranged plan was carried out when Jesus was betrayed. With the help of lawless Gentiles, you nailed him to a cross and killed him.
• What is one thing that stood out to you in this passage?
• Why do you think it stood out to you?
• What can you apply to your life from this passage?
Use the following questions to further your discussion as a group. You can either do these after your Scripture of Focus time or you can use them within your scripture focus time to add to the conversation as a whole. As always you are welcome to guide the discussion the best that you and your co-leader think fits your group.
Our sin is exactly what accused Jesus. But he went through it for our benefit. What does that mean to you?
Have you ever felt like Pilate? Stuck between what you know is right and what everyone else wants? How do you handle those situations?
Like Barabbas the criminal, we are all guilty and deserve the penalty. How do you show Jesus your thanks for paying the consequences for your sin? How can you do that better?
Close in prayer at 8:25ish