JHM Material, 9/11

Scripture Focus:
You will keep in perfect peace
all who trust in you,
all whose thoughts are fixed on you!
Trust in the Lord always,
for the Lord God is the eternal Rock.
Isaiah 26:3 (NLT)
Leader Tip:

How to…Be a Great Co-Leader

Co-Leading a small group can be a fantastic partnership when done intentionally. Here are a few benefits:

  1. A Second Voice – There will be nights where you will feel like you are talking to the Great Wall of China. Your students may not respond, react or agree but having a second voice to reinforce what is being discussed is a huge benefit.
  2. Co-Leaders Encourage One Another – It is going to happen…at some point in the year you’re going to get discouraged. Maybe it will be disappointment with a student’s poor choices or maybe attendance will drop off a bit and you get frustrated. A co-leader gives the opportunity to bring the other up in a time of need.
  3. Filling In For Each Other – You’ve got maybe 30 weeks of Small Groups during the school year – from time to time conflict is going to happen. Business trip, family crisis – sometimes real life gets in the way of small groups. A co-leader jumps to the rescue and saves the day. Same thing when there isn’t a crisis and one of you just needs a night off.
  4. Neither One Has to Always Be the Bad Guy – Every small group leader has to come strong with discipline sometime during the year – so it’s great to have a second voice to talk through the drama and even play good cop/bad cop as necessary.


So, how do we do it? Here are some tips:


With your co-leader. We all have different gifts, hearts, abilities, personalities and experiences. Coming together to lead can present challenges because of those differences, but can also be an advantage. Trust that your co-leader is there for the same purpose: to reach students, connect with them, and help them grow. We are all in this together and any issues that may arise should be met with the understanding that we have the same goal and that “you are not the victim”. As a rule, any conflict should be addressed right away. Matt. 18:15, Eph. 4:26-27 & Rom. 12:18


With students. Let’s face it just as you and your co-leader will have different SHAPEs, so will the students in your group. You will connect better with some students than others. This is another benefit of co-leading, but you have to be intentional about not playing favorites or always having your co-leader connect with that student you just don’t mesh with.



With your co-leader. This is vital to a good relationship with your co-leader. Once you find out who you will be partnered with, make a plan to meet (in person is best). Don’t wait until the first night of group! Then continue to communicate. Weekly, you should talk about who will handle which responsibilities (discussion time, prayer, communication with students/parents). And invest time in learning about and encouraging one another. Rom. 12:10


With students/parents. Not communicating with parents is setting your group up for conflict. Parents need to be kept in the loop of things happening in your group and how they can continue to facilitate what is being taught…and this should be a shared responsibility with your co-leader. Connecting with your students is the key to trust. Trust leads to openness. Again, this should be a shared responsibility.


With these tips in mind, a strong connection to God through worship and prayer, and an attitude of positivity, you can have a successful and thriving relationship with your co-leader.


Upcoming Events:

9/10 – AJ’s birthday!

9/13 – Jill’s birthday!

9/26 – See You at the Pole


Remember to take attendance through the email you receive weekly, and before the end of the night. Thank you!


Leader Meeting:
Please make it a priority to be at the wherehouse by 6:30pm to go over the details of the evening and to pray together. Send a message through GroupMe or text AJ at 906-7157 if you’ll be late or won’t be there.



Opening Game: Criss Cross

Have students split equally in the 4 corners of the room, call out a way for them to move (hop, skip, crab walk, etc.) and they have to go to the corner diagonal from them, first team there gets a point, first team to 5 wins.

Game #2: Volcanoes and Craters

Materials: plastic cups

Place half of them upside down in any formation you like and the other half face up. Split kids into 2 groups and designate one team as the “Volcano” team and the other as the “Crater” team. Each team is trying, at the same time to flip the cups over to their side. So, the volcano team is trying to get all the cups to look like volcanoes (upright), while the craters are trying to get the cups to look like craters (upside down). Give them a set amount of time to do this (usually 1-2 minutes). When time is up count how many cups look like craters and volcanoes. The team with the most wins!

Note: Specify that you can only flip one cup over at a time and you can’t carry the cups anywhere else.


Series: House Rules



Colossians 1:16-17

 ...for through him God created everything in the heavenly realms and on earth. He made the things we can see and the things we can’t see—such as thrones, kingdoms, rulers, and authorities in the unseen world. Everything was created through him and for him. He existed before anything else, and he holds all creation together. 


Ephesians 2:18-19  

For through Him we both have access by one Spirit to the Father. So then you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with the saints, and members of God’s household…


Jesus Says:






Matthew 11:28

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life.




Matthew 11:29-30

I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”




Hebrews 12:1-2

…let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith.




John 10:27

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.




John 14:15-17

“If you love me, you will obey my commandments. I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, who will stay with you forever.”




Scripture of focus:


Ephesians 2:18-19  

For through Him we both have access by one Spirit to the Father. So then you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with the saints, and members of God’s household…



  • What is one thing that stood out to you in this passage?


  • Why do you think it stood out to you?


  • What can you apply to your life from this passage?



Discussion Questions:


  • Why do you think this House Rule is so important?


  • How do we make Jesus our focus everyday?


  • Is there anything you feel like you should start doing? Anything you need to stop to make Jesus your focus?


Close in prayer at 8:25ish